Stevethehammer 2:22 Tue Sep 8
Ex wife troubles- am I being unreasonable
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It's been well documented on here that I have had troubles in the past what with my wife going off with my best mate with my kids etc etc.
Cutting a long long story short get a message from her this morning to say that she is going away over Xmas to Ireland (where new boyfriend is from) and she has decided to not take the kids. Now we planned ages ago for me to have the kids Xmas eve and part of Xmas day and for her to have them Xmas day and boxing day. Easiest solution all round. Now she has decided she is going from the 23rd to the 27th to see his family etc etc.
I have fucking lost it, what mother would ever decide that. I am more than happy to have my kids over Xmas actually I would be over the fucking moon but for her to not even be there Xmas day in any capacity to me is just wrong. Would be nice to hear a womans take and blokes who have been in this situation or close to it.
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BRANDED
7:55 Thu Sep 10
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Just out of interest.
Are your kids really irritating?
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SurfaceAgentX2Zero
7:51 Thu Sep 10
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Mr Polite - your posts strongly suggest you haven't got a clue about the importance of Christmas to either families or children.
I strongly suggest a viewing of Scrooge, twice a day until you get the message.
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Eerie Descent
7:51 Thu Sep 10
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Steve, what you want, basically, is for everyone to call her a cunt. She fucked off with your best mate. And now she's leaving her kid here whilst she fucks off for Christmas. You do not need telling by anyone on here, of course she's a cunt.
Now, throw that thought out, and concentrate on enjoying the time you'll now have, and trying to find a bit of crumpet of your own. If you've already got some, get her to stick her finger up your bullet.
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Stevethehammer
7:48 Thu Sep 10
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Polite there are 364 other days of the year that she could choose, the most important date of the year is off limits in my book. I might aswell just fuck off for their birthdays just because I feel like it and my new girlfriend will get the hump otherwise.
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Mr Polite
7:45 Thu Sep 10
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So are you saying if you get together with someone you'll never want a long weekend away just you and them?
That's pretty much all she is doing. So what that it's Xmas, she'll still get them presents I'm sure.
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Stevethehammer
7:41 Thu Sep 10
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As I've said before ladies and gents it's not the issue of her doing this and that, me not wanting to have the kids as it's the complete opposite, I'm over the moon to be having them, my gripe is that she is choosing him over them.
Strip it all back, she has a choice, she stays here with the kids for Xmas day or goes with him to Ireland. She is choosing him. As said before imagine me doing that I could never live it down with anyone and if I put it up on here trying to justify it I would have been hounded off.
Anyways as many have pointed out and to which I knew anyways, her loss is my huge gain. I just think no one ever comes before your own kids and that will never change.
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Too Much Too Young
7:33 Thu Sep 10
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I have my 19 year old living with me, so he'll be around at xmas.
Not sure yet if i'll get to see my 12 & 15 year old boys...only seen them 4 times this year, for a total of about 15 days when they come stay with me....next time is for 3/4 days at the end of Oct.
if you have your kids for xmas, be thankful, get on with getting the most from the your time together and don't spend a thought on what the ex is up to..
double headed snakes with tits etc...
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Mike Oxsaw
6:55 Thu Sep 10
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Moncurs Putting Iron 4:34 Thu Sep 10
Like I said earlier, this is probably as good as it gets for an absent parent. Fuck the whys & wherefores and just go for it.
ray winstone 3:51 Thu Sep 10
Another result for the Home team. Enjoy. Will you be taking a game in?
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Moncurs Putting Iron
4:34 Thu Sep 10
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I have fucking lost it, what mother would ever decide that.
One that is giving you the opportunity to have your children over the entire Xmas period thus giving you evidence that you are flexible and accomodating which could well pay dividends the next time you need to revise or tweak the access arrangement.
Honestly fella, outside looking in you are coming accross as wanting to find fault in her and dismissing a great opportunity TO SPEND CHRISTMAS WITH YOUR CHILDREN because of it.
Say yes that would be fantastic and start planning!
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ray winstone
3:51 Thu Sep 10
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MY 17 year old son text me today and asked if he could spend Xmas with me this year, over the moon.
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wrighty
11:58 Thu Sep 10
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stewie griffin 2:29 Tue Sep 8
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SurfaceAgentX2Zero
11:38 Thu Sep 10
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I agree. That's why it's entirely understandable for a father to worry about his ex-wife seeking to alienate his kids from him.
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Mr Polite
11:34 Thu Sep 10
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A good parent will want their kids to love each parent equally.
Very few seem to understand that sadly
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Mr Polite
11:21 Thu Sep 10
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Are you not aware there are ex-wives who make it their life's work to poison the minds of their children that they have greater access to against their father?
Yep - and that makes them bad mums.
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SurfaceAgentX2Zero
11:20 Thu Sep 10
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Mr Polite 11:16 Thu Sep 10
'That would only be in his thinking if he is a shit dad'
Why do you think that? Are you not aware there are ex-wives who make it their life's work to poison the minds of their children that they have greater access to against their father?
You haven't thought that through, have you?
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Jack_El_Biscuit
11:17 Thu Sep 10
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Does the boyfriend live with her and help bring up the kids?
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Mr Polite
11:16 Thu Sep 10
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'you will never again have to worry about the possibility of the kids favouring their mother over you.'
That would only be in his thinking if he is a shit dad
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Mr Polite
11:15 Thu Sep 10
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Am I the only one that can see it from her point of view? Me a divorced dad who's ex is far worse than anything described here?
the more I think of this the more I honestly think you're focus is all wrong Steve.
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SurfaceAgentX2Zero
11:13 Thu Sep 10
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Don't fret it. Play this one right and you will never again have to worry about the possibility of the kids favouring their mother over you.
Enjoy Christmas with your kids and bollocks to her and her new bloke. Make this very obvious to them without actually saying it.
Love Marge.
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Davenport
11:08 Thu Sep 10
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normannomates 9:54 Wed Sep 9
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